Kissing Your Loved Ones Goodbye.
Good Morning, Has anyone heard of kissing their loved ones goodbye before their coffin is closed? My Fraley-Osborne-Smith-Sturgill families have done this for generations and I was wondering in any one else has this old hill tradition in their family-or heard of this being done. Thank you, Ramona
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I thought everyone did this, you mean my family is "different"? Judy
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Good Morning Judy and All, No your family is not different. Your family is like mine and holds to old tradition. I have only found two other researchers, besides yourself and me, whose families kiss their loved one goodbye. My lines: Jesse Fraley, Sr and Mary English Fraley. Isaac Fraley and Catherine Shoemaker Fraley Jesse Osborne and Mary Hamilton Osborne Alvin Sturgill and Nancy Jane Fraley Ahab F. Hamilton and Elizabeth Jane Washburn Hamilton William N. Kidder and Louisa Rebecca Mitchell Kidder Samuel E. Bayes and Kentucky Parsons Bayes Isaac N. Smith and Pheba Osborne Smith The other researchers whose family continue this old tradition have connections to the Sturgill family of NC-VA-KY-OH. Have a Good Day, Ramona
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Hi,
I don't know why people do it or if there's any significance behind it, but I know a lot of people do kiss their beloved ones before the lid is closed. I've always done it as a last goodbye until we meet again, because it'll be the last time on this earth that I'll ever have contact with them. Although, I have heard it said that it's a way to help keep nightmares away, or give you peace. It doesn't have to be a kiss, just a touch of some sort.
Pam
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Hi Pam, I have talked to many of my older Fraley-Sturgill Kinfolk and Cousins my age since posting this message and they said kissing or touching our departed loved ones was done so the children would learn not to be afraid of death-which seems logical. Thank You, Ramona
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In my family we kiss our loved ones goodbye before the coffin is closed. We have always done this.
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Have heard that all my like. You wouldn't happen to be a decendent of Mary Bell Fraley that married Reuben Hamilton 11-18-1898 would you
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Re: Kissing Your Loved Ones Goodbye.
Hi Deloris, My direct Fraley lines are from Jesse Fraley, Sr and Mary English Fraley; and Isaac Fraley and Catherine Shoemaker Fraley-both Jesse and Isaac Fraley were sons of Frederick and Chloe Fraley of Russell Co. VA. My direct line of Hamilton Kin is through Icie Dora Hamilton who md. David Francis Kidder. My Kidder-Hamilton kin are from Bracken Co. KY-migrating into Adams Co. OH. It is good to know another Fraley-Hamilton has heard this old lore. Thank you for replying. Ramona
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I was very close to my mother-in-law and kissed her goodbye - the first time I had ever done it. I was shocked to learn how cold she was. My sister was made to kiss an aunt goodbye and my sister said she had bad dreams for a long time. I believe my sister was 12 or so.
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Cont'd Hit the wrong button. Anyway I'm still sorry I didn't kiss my father-in-law goodbye in 2000. No one did. I think that's so sad. Oh well, different strokes for different folks. Sue
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