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uncovering family secret!!

uncovering family secret!!

Posted: 14 Jun 2002 4:55PM GMT
Classification: Query
Edited: 23 Mar 2004 5:52PM GMT
hello my name is tiamora, i have recently discover that my family has a secret that DOES NOT want to be uncovered. i am having trouble finding information on my family history. which should be simple because there are unusal names that we have. i have my parents and grandparents names, but the trouble is that i don't have specific informaton about my grand parents on both sides. from stories about my history on my mothers side there has been children adopted from other family members, my mother and her oldest sister were adopted by there aunt and on my fathers side theres a name for my grandfather but neither of us know information on him. on top of all that i have a "birth" father i recently found out about and have very limited information that it is impossiable to find him.i take that back i know where he is, but i'm just scared to find a way to contact him. there are soo many secerts in my family that i don't know were to begin. i have this driven force in me to find out who i am and where i come from that is driving me mad. i don't understand the secret and who it is protecting or even why. but i need to uncover the truth so i can have peace of mind;even if it's me my family is protecting.i know that it will be a long road ahead to discover the facts about my ancestry. but there is something in my history that is totally overwhelming i need to discover. if any one can help me find where to begin from the end--- so i can find the beginning to be finished...please help!!!

Re: uncovering family secret!!

Posted: 17 Jul 2002 8:22AM GMT
Classification: Query
Edited: 10 Aug 2003 6:49AM GMT
If I were you I would start by interviewing every single relative you can. Take excellent notes and ask the same questions consistantly. Where ever you find these inconsistancies make a special note. Look for patterns. Don't forget to interview any family friends or neighbors who might know something. Rack your brains and try to remember all the people in your life. Do you have any clergy who your family may have confided in? Go to them for prayer and guidance and you may find some real help. Ask over and over again until you are a real nuisance. Some one will crack. Don't give up it may take years.
LM

Re: uncovering family secret!!

Posted: 18 Jul 2002 5:09AM GMT
Classification: Query
Edited: 10 Aug 2003 6:49AM GMT
if you know who your father is and your mom don't
want you to meet him, there must be a good reason that
she don't . Some of my family does thing that I don't
like so I am not going to stay around them to find out
anything about their family, because they do things
that I would not do my self. that is how life is. some
perfer to live in sin and most everyone want to live
a Christian life. My nephew adopted his sister;s
son because she couldn't support him she did
that because she didn't want him to be adopted
outside of the family. I wish you luck , but,some
things are better left alone. you can go into
family search for names usgen.com, and
like Lind Mcallister said that when you pray
about things God will lead you to some people
that you didn't think knew any thing, are you from
Georgia, Like near Atlanta, Georgia,F.T.

Re: uncovering family secret!!

Posted: 18 Jul 2002 3:28PM GMT
Classification: Query
Edited: 23 Mar 2004 5:52PM GMT
Thanks Frances;
I use to live in Atlanta about several years ago, but i was born in Jesup,Georgia. I'm digging sooo much into my blood-line because something is not right. i'm so driven to find out why things are so jummbled from when i was a baby. i got my "orginal" birth records and my birth fathers' name is not on it, but 10 years after my birth the man i call dad is on it!!!like if i never ask questions about me feeling different then i would have never seen the orginal bith certificate;or knew my dad is NOT my dad. i know my biological father's full name "Gregory Bernard Smith" and that he was a Ranger in the Army, and he's from Daytona Beach,Flordia, and may still be there. he's not listed in any public source and i know he's not dead.my next move is to put an ad in the Daytona Beach paper maybe i'll get a response. my family knows that i tend to be very hardheaded and i don't give up easily. i'm 27 yrs. old so it just might take another 27 yrs.....thank's for your response---tiamora

Re: uncovering family secret!!

Posted: 18 Jul 2002 5:01PM GMT
Classification: Query
Edited: 10 Aug 2003 6:50AM GMT
Hi, I still say leave your real dad alone, you will be
making a mistake in finding him. he could have
commited a crime or something else real bad.
and it will hurt your dad that has raised you,
It is not that important to locate him. If he
wanted to be a father to you he could have.
I say it is not worth the time and effort to
find him. If you know where his family lives
, I would maybe check where they are.
but, be happy with your family that you
have.You aere 27 years old and you think
iot is a good thing to locate him, but, I
say No. My grandson's dad won't have
anything to do with him just on holidays
so I say , don't get into a can of worms that
will hurt you more . Let God work this out,
talk to God and he will see you through this.
Good luck with your life , Frances tateif@aol.com

Re: uncovering family secret!!

Posted: 18 Jul 2002 5:20PM GMT
Classification: Query
Edited: 10 Aug 2003 6:50AM GMT
Hi Tiamora, Go into family search and put in Gregory
Bernard Smith and put in the state United States and
then it will show states and put in Florida and it will
show all the anmes of Gregory Bernard Smith and he
might not be living now, and you can send for his death
certificate if this is the right one. I checked it out and
seen hi sname on the list. Good luck on your search,
e-mail me if this is the right one. tateif@aol.com
Thanks, Frances

Re: uncovering family secret!!

Lyresa (View posts)
Posted: 4 Aug 2002 5:08PM GMT
Classification: Query
Don't quit looking! Just because some family members have thought it best at the time to not share these secrets, time passes and changes the feelings within any family. We all want our family, children and grandchildren to believe we are without guilt and are wonderful people that never do wrong. If these secrets are shared, the cat's out of the bag. Just because we have negative stories uncovered doesn't mean we aren't proud of where we've come from and want to know more. We each have the freedom of choice as to whether to associate with those family members we disagree with or not but it doesn't change our family history. Every family has some sort of secret, some worse than others and, on the other side, every family has some wonderful things that deserve to be known and shared. If you never dig, you never find those stories either. Sure you never discover that what the family believes is your aunt's child is really your cousin's illegitimate child BUT you also never find that your great-grandparents were wonderful foster parents to 20 orphans. You never discover that your gr.gr.uncle founded the first church in that small western town....you never learn that your gr.gr.gr.grandparents lived only a mile from where you now live.

Keep up the search and don't give up just because you don't get answers now. You'll never break down that wall unless you keep at it - no one is going to come up to you 2 years from now and say "I remember you asking about....". If I had taken my family's word about my father being a 'worthless bum' and given up asking questions, I would not now know I have 2 more sisters, another brother and 5 nieces and nephews that I never knew about! I also would not know that the rest of my family were wonderful people with wonderful stories and lots of love to share.

Keep asking questions and keep looking to the Lord for guidance....the wall will break sometime and the answers will flood in!

Happy hunting! Lyresa

Re: uncovering family secret!!

Posted: 27 Mar 2003 3:25PM GMT
Classification: Query
If he was in the Army, you can contact the US Military, and ask them to forward a letter for you. If he doesn't reply, assume that he doesn't want to be found. Another thing, it may take a long time for the letter to reach him. If I could remember where I sent our letter (to hubby's dad), I'd tell you. Post a query on a Military mailing list, and I'll bet that someone there could tell you how to do it. You'll need to give them as much information on him as you can, so they can identify the correct serviceman.

Re: uncovering family secret!! still looking!!!

TIAMORA (View posts)
Posted: 5 Apr 2004 4:27AM GMT
Classification: Query
STILL CAN'T FIND MY FATHER
GREGORY BANARD SMITH
FROM DAYTONA BEACH FLORIDA
LIVES ON JIMMYANN LANE OR DRIVE??
NUMBER IS UNLISTED???
MANY FAMILY MEMBERS LIVE IN THAT TOWN SOMEONE HAS TO KNOW SOMETHING
PLEASE HELP DAUGTHER REUNITE WITH FATHER
I LIVE TOO FAR AWAY TO TRAVEL TO ASK PEOPLE THAT LIVE IN THAT TOWN

Re: uncovering family secret!! still looking!!!

K. (View posts)
Posted: 5 Jul 2004 3:37AM GMT
Classification: Query
Try anywho.com ..follow directions...perhaps you can find the phone number. Things happen when they are meant to happen.
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