i was reading thru some old messages and came across yours. i do not agree with what you said, that the young lady should leave well alone, i have been in the same siuation and i continue till this day 49 yrs later still trying to unravel the secrets, i think as long as she thinks it all thru the pros and cons, and she has accepted the outcome may not be the one she wants, then GO FOR It.everyone has the right to know where they come from.thats life.