Melody, If you have an exact death date, you can get information at the new haven public library. My mothers people are buried in st. lawrence cemetery, donohue. st. peters and paul ave. i remember going there as a child.
Have you posted at every website because there is the
http://www.genforum.genealogy.com/green or maley there, and there is an obit forum too. you would have the counties and states to post. I am going to try and help you. I have good friends that help me find my Facciuto side of the family, and in the past 2 yrs have been back to CT. to visit them. betty