Many thanks to you! The Columbia, NY Lillian isn't her--I saw that, too. I had trouble finding her on the '40 census so many thanks. I actually called a NY funeral home who had an "in" with the cemetery. I had initially been told all they had was her burial date and that was it (I find that hard to believe!) and she gave me a few more bits of info on her and she is indeed, my aunt. I can't figure out whyt her name was never mentioned, Some things die with people, I guess.
Again, thanks for your reply...I'll take any help I am given!