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NOT SURE HOW ANYONE FEELS ABOUT THIS-PLEASE READ THIS

NOT SURE HOW ANYONE FEELS ABOUT THIS-PLEASE READ THIS

Posted: 16 Jun 2003 4:27PM GMT
Classification: Query
Edited: 24 Oct 2003 6:14AM GMT
SINCE WE WERE ALL ADOPTED, I WAS WONDERING HOW YOU ALL FEEL ABOUT WANTED TO HAVE YOUR BIRTH NAMES CHANGE BACK FROM YOUR ADOPTED NAME?

I'M NOT TRYING TO UPSET OR OFFEND ANYONE BUT THIS IS JUST A SIMPLE QUESTION I NEED FROM EVERYBODY OF HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT WANTED THEIR NAMES CHANGE BACK TO THEIR RIGHTFULLY BIRTH NAMES AND HAVE THEIR ADOPTED NAMES TAKEN OFF....SINCE WE REALLY BELONG TO OUR REAL BIRTH FAMILIES AS WE ALL HAVE THE SAME DNA BLOOD LINE ALONE WITH OUR BIRTHFAMILIES....AND HERE'S SOMETHING ELSE I ALSO FOUND OUT THAT WE DON'T REALLY BELONG IN OUR ADOPTIVE FAMILIY TREE AS WE REALLY BELONG TO OUR BIRTHFAMILIES FAMILY TREE LINE....

PLEASE REPLY BACK TO ME AND TELL ME HOW YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT WANTED TO HAVE YOUR BIRTH NAME BACK FROM YOUR ADOPTED NAME...I REALLY WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HOW YOU ALL FEEL ABOUT IT....HEY I CARE ABOUT EVERYBODY FEELINGS....

BEST REGARDS,
DEBBIE

You've given me something to think about.

Tricia (View posts)
Posted: 16 Jun 2003 9:08PM GMT
Classification: Query
Debbie, I like your question, however I'm not sure there is a simple answer. I have reunited with my b-mom and it was great! But family is not just blood. I guess depending on how your life was in your adoptive family, would affect one's answer. I had a pretty normal childhood, I didn't say perfect, just a typical family with typical problems. The parents I grew up with and my siblings are my family and I would not denounce the name they gave me. I know not everyone feels the way I do and I do not wish to offend anyone with my thought on this.Tricia

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Posted: 16 Jun 2003 11:19PM GMT
Classification: Query
Edited: 18 Jun 2003 3:05AM GMT
I feel that our adoptive families are are families. They are the ones who raised us, took care of us, provided for us, and loved us. True our blood/birth families may have loved us all along in their hearts but they didn't make the decision to care for us and give up their lives for us to be happy. I have the utmost respect for my birth family, whoever they are, but I know beyond a doubt that I will never/would never change my name.

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wilma (View posts)
Posted: 17 Jun 2003 4:39AM GMT
Classification: Query
Surnames: Medley / Deboard
Dear Debbie,
I am not adopted, but I have three brothers who are adopted,
and two of the three have come back home, One of them
refere to our Mother as your Mother, but then the other calls
her Mom. I asked my one brother why he referes to our Mother as your, and he will not answere me. I know he was 6 years old when they were taken, I just wonder how much resentment he still hold towards my Mom. But then we are still looking for the third brother, with what I understand is very upset over his adoption, for he has exstranged himself from his adopted family, and moved to Ocala Florida. His birth date is 06 / 01/ 1944. His BP Helen Medley/ DeBoard, from Harveysburg Oh. If you know why he might be acting like this write me back
A Sister searching for a lost brother.

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Posted: 18 Jun 2003 8:11PM GMT
Classification: Query
Surnames: Hemming
Hi, Debbie...I'm not adopted, and (kindly spoken here...) I'm not sure of what your point is, exactly...but I'd like to point out one merit of following your suggestion: in my family, we are searching for a pair of twins that were adopted by others back in the late 1930s or early 1940s. Their birth names were Jerry and Judy Hemming. They were born in Carthage, Hancock County, Ilinois on November 10, 1938. Their birth father and mother were both rascals, now both deceased...and I'm sure that the twins were better off with their adoptive families...but the rest of us would sure like to know what has become of them.
We "think" that it is possible that they were both adopted by a family in the Kansas City area, possibly by a doctor and his wife...we have our reasons to suspect this to be true but have no way to confirm it.
If they know that their birth name is Hemming, and they were to post that information somewhere, wouldn't it be lovely?

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Joan Denz-Hamilton (View posts)
Posted: 19 Jun 2003 8:00AM GMT
Classification: Query
My husband, an adoptee, would undoubtedly keep the name he grew up with. His birth parents gave him a bloodline, but his real family is the one that has always been there for him!

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wilma (View posts)
Posted: 19 Jun 2003 8:42PM GMT
Classification: Query
Dear Debbie,
First I want to say that I am sorry for the lost of your friend.
And the response that I gave you really does not have much to do with what you wrote. I think it is just me that wants to be mad over how my brother acts towards my Mother. With what happened, she did not have much control over what happened to them
So I am really sorry for sounding so nasty, and hateful

wilma

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Posted: 20 Jun 2003 7:25PM GMT
Classification: Query
Edited: 3 Jan 2005 6:17AM GMT
Surnames: Wright
Hi hon,
I don't know one adoptee that does not agree with your statement. We know who loved and raised us as their own. But that doesn't change that feeling of a part of you missing.

Are you an adoptee? If not, you can not possibly understand what we feel in our hearts.

I'm lucky, my adoptive Mom wants me to find my Bmom. She wants to thank her for the gift of me!

Heather

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Debbie (View posts)
Posted: 21 Jun 2003 3:04AM GMT
Classification: Query
Hello Kathry,
If I spell your name wrong here, I just hope you will forgive me for that it's just that my husband has been really making me so nervous today and my nerves are shock as it is.....I'm sorry!!
It's funny how you mention about twins because I so happen to be a twin myself and my twin sister and I were both adopted to the same adopted family together....I do hope you will find the twins you are looking for and I do wish you all the best of luck hon...
Our birthmother has had three sets of twins and two single births....our birthmother's dad is a twin also and my mother's sisters has also had twins..
Our birthmother had name us at birth and when our adoptive parents came along they had changed our names and for what I don't understand is why they did that and the way I see it since our birthmother had already name us then our adoptive parents should had let us keep our birthnames as our birthmother was the first person who name us at birth and it was our gift from her because that was her way of telling us that she loved us....I hope all this makes alot of common sense to you all here of what I'm getting at.....
About 3 or 4 years ago before my adoped mom had passed away....she had notice that I had my adopted name printed on top cover of my Bible at the bottom on the right hand side corner and she had asked me 'WHY' I had my name on there and I told her because it's my name and she told me flat out that it was NOT my name and never was and never will and never has been....
So when I got home from her house I immediteley scatch it all off and I got to really thinking hard of what she was saying and you know it had made a lot of sense to me that my adopted name was never my real name so that's another reason I would like to have my original birth name back....since when the day I was born I came into this world with my birthname and now I want it change back to my real birthname before I leave out of this World and be in Heaven with our Heavely Father....

Best Regards in the Love of Jesus,
Debbie

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theresa (View posts)
Posted: 21 Jun 2003 10:55PM GMT
Classification: Query
I had a sister who was given up for adoption and I feel the same way a piece me is missing,and I would love to find it to
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