Hiya Kate,
Thanks for that,,,,,I have NSW stuff at home but have access to Vic stuff at the library which once I print this out I can check in next day or two,,

But on a quick note,,,hehehe
V1845408 62/1845 HAYS JULIA THOMAS MARY
V18452019 134/1845 HAYS JULIA THOMAS MARY

Also there is a Joseph VALLIS buried in our cemetery here,,,we not far from Shoalhaven area. died 1866 aged 50yo.
Let me know if it connects

Kellie