Being new to all this DNA matching I feel as if I've stepped into a long standing gripe that I don't really understand.
Yes, I posted this to a DNA board.
And yes,I got a message that it was being moved.

I thought they said it was being moved to autosomal DNA , but I've erased the message so I can't say for sure. I guess that is not where it ended up.

My research is very very difficult. It is not as simple as my husbands whose family has been in the US for 350 years and then it jumps to the BIs where it is all in English.
My research jumps immediately to eastern Europe with my grandparents where only in the last 10 years or so are records coming out.

I can't just go to the LDS films or a US census and pull out another ancestor :)

My ancestors are the "Germans from Russians"
who immigrated to North and South Dakota around 1900 and also to Canada. Most of mine immigrated to Canada.

As someone said, I do have resentment at those that take but won't share which is what they are doing with these private
trees.
About 8 years ago after hundreds of dollars and a full year of work with these foreign archives and with translators, I was able to get a choice record, a census that really expanded my father's family several generations.

I gave that to cousins who put the information online on their trees and now I see that information on trees that I have no clue how they connect to mine.

I don't have a lot of close matches and those I have are either closed trees or the people know even less about how to do research in the area than I do.

There is no obvious name link in any of these close matches because we can't get far enough back.

I do have two matches that are willing to communicate with me and try to do what it takes to figure this out.

As if my research isn't hard enough it looks like the best match is to an adoptive grandmother. We are waiting for another DNA test of an 80 year old daughter of the sister of the adoptive grandmother.
This person is absolutely thrilled at the prospect of finding a "blood relative" of her grandmother (even if it is just a 3rd cousin)
so enough whining. LOL.
I really need to find a way to get my second best match to
show me her tree. Has anyway asked to be invited in been rebuffed. I really don't want to get on the bad side of this person.
Since our research is so very difficult, I am really really
baffled that there is so little willingness to work together.