Pat,
I'll try to answer all of your questions in this one post :)

My CI gave said he was 59, and quoted that from his obit. As far as my hearing goes, I don't beleive anyone will be there except for myself, the judge, and the court clerk. There has been no further attempt at contact with his family since his sister hung up on my CI a few weeks ago. My siblings do not even know I exist unless my baunt has decided to tell them, which based on her reaction, I highly doubt it. Suffice it to say this woman should hope we never meet face to face, because it won't be pretty.

I should probably give you a little more info on the circumstances surrounding my birth. My bmom and bdad were 20 when I was born. My bdad was married and had an affair with my bmom. He was not told about my existence until post adoption according to what my bmom told my CI. Back in the 60's, bdads basically had no rights and did not need to agree to placement. (times have changed, thank god).

Anyhow, it makes for a very sticky situation. When my CI contacted my baunt, and told her why she was calling, by baunt initially denied it, and said there was NO way that was possible. After a while, she listened as my CI explained the situation further. Then she said "so what's the bottom line". My CI told her that at the very least, I would like some medical history for myself and my son, and at best, perhaps a picture of my bdad, and maybe some contact with some of his family. Her response???? "No Thanks!" and then she hung up on my CI............ Nice lady huh?

My bmom was contacted back around the beginning of the year, but said she cannot consent to contact at this time. She has been married for 38 years, and although her husband knows about me, they have 2 daughters who do not. She also has a 94 yo mom who lives with her and she feels that her mom could not deal with this at this time. It has been really difficult to accept, however she was kind enough to send medical history through my CI to me. She also told my CI that she loves me and always has. She asked a lot of questions about me and if I was healthy and happy. My CI feels that once her mom is gone that things will be different, so I'm hoping and praying that door is still open for future contact.........

Anyhow, I don't think I was baptized prior to my adoption. I was 10 days old when the adoption was finalized. The Elizabeth Lund Home in Burlington VT handled my adoption. Because my bdad did not have any knowlege of my existence at the time I was relinquished, I don't think his living in NH necessarily has any bearing on things....

There, was that long winded enough for you????? :) :)