Adam,

I dont know how old you are, but things were different in the past, and still are for some families. My mother gave up a son for adoption, and had the same attitude as your birth mother. She comes from a very religious family and she never told them she was pregnant. She didn't want them to know.

My parents went through a divorce, and my father told us she gave up a son (trying to make her look bad, although we didn't think that about her). I began my search at 13 years old for my brother. I finally found him 20 years later!

Since then I have found my grandfather's sister who was stolen from her birth mother by the birth father in the 1920's, and that woman's son who she had given up for adoption in 1950's.

All I can say is dont give up! Sometimes the pieces just fall into place. I have never paid a private investigator, although I became desperate at times and though about it. Luckily at the time I couldn't aford to do that. If you would like to email me privately, I would be happy to see if I could find anything for you. I am currently helping a friend look for his birth father. Same MO as you, bio mom wont tell much of anything.

Maybe we can at least put you in touch with your siblings! I know I am very greatful to have found my big brother! Nothing beats a big brother!

My email is jking AT rjcarchitects.com No spaces.

Oh, and my mother finanly met my brother. They aren't close, so I dont want to get your hopes up there, but you could have a wonderful relationship with your siblings.