Phil:
My grandmother sounds as if she might have been your great, great grandfather's brother's daughter. She was Mary Catherine Veale born in Ballyglassoon, County Killkenny in 1877. Her mother's maiden name was Butler and her father's name was Michael Veale. She was married to William O'Neill of County Tipperary (New Inn, Chamberlainstown) and they had six children here in the United States of whom my father was one. If you are still out there, it would be nice to chat. Email me back.