Hello Totaro's, I am one too from NNJ. I found a great website last year that provided my family information in Italy. Fortunately I knew my family was from Monte San Giacomo. Please check out
www.imaginesmaiorum.net . This is Ancestors from Campania created by a wonderful researcher. He has researched many of the families from this area. He lists two branches of Totaro's going back to the 1700's to one ancestor, Michele Totaro born before 1775. He also researched numerous other families from Campania.
Enjoy and good luck! MT