There is a book about the toe Laer Family.
http://ia600409.us.archive.org/21/items/geslachtlijstder00vo...On page 28 Rene Robert Herman toe Laer is mentioned.
He married on 2 September 1872 in Galveston Texas with
Mildred Pollard Gaines (she died before 1880)
He married on 23 August 1882 in New York with
Flora Christina Louise de Jong van 't Woud.
The son of R.R.H. toe Laer, Robert Reinard toe Laer also stayed in the United States in the 1920's.
Go this website:
http://www.elfanie.nl/and contact her. Almost every one in the Netherlands can speak English. I think she is the Great Granddaughter of Robert Reinard toe Laer.
(note:. Spelling in the Netherlands is toe Laer and not ToeLaer)
There are only about 7 persons in the Netherlands with the surname toe Laer. They are one family.