G'Day from Australia, This maybe a long shot but I have an Andrew Tolmie who married a Elizabeth David in Wales.1845. On their marriage Andrew's father John Tolmie Mother not mentioned. But on 3 of their sons their births in Forres in Scotland are John David Tolmie born 1847.
George Miller Haxton Tolmie born 1849.
Thomas Tolmie born 1850.
Having seen your message with a John Tolmie marrying an Ellen Miller I wondered if there was a connection.
They had another 2 sons Charles and Andrew.
Andrew lived in Wales and the other sons in England. Then Thomas came to Australia and lived on the Darling Downs Queensland and he is buried in Toowoomba.
I can be contacted on
jeffdor@hotmail.comThankyou in anticipation