i'm returning to this problem. perhaps i can get some help from other longest family researchers.
the key data is the 1850 census
James A Saunders 35
Adelia Saunders 33
Lucy E Saunders 8
John Saunders 6
George W Saunders 4
Joseph J Saunders 2
Mary C Heath 11
next door is
Betsy Longest 65
William Longest 35
Franky Longest 27
adelia dies in 1853
Name: Cordelia Saunders
Birth Date: abt 1817
Birth Place: King and Queen
Death Date: 29 May 1853
Death Place: King and Queen, Virginia
Death Age: 36
Race: White
Marital Status: Married
Gender: Female
Spouse Name: James A. Saunders