I've indexed multiple entries from original sources for a Theodor Kuder: death notices, obits, memorials, funeral service articles. These are found in various local German newspapers, daily and weekly editions. I don't find an entry for your Emilia/Amelia/Emily Bode Kuder. There are multiple entries for a Charles Bode (early and rare), and a possible entry for Sophia?
Contact me directly for particulars:
gary.rebholz@gmail.comMilwaukee's German Newspapers; an index of death notices and related items (1844-1950)