Gosh, this is going to be a real shot in the dark as it's 6 years since your posting. Anyway, here goes.
I have just started to help a neighbour with her family history. Her gt.grandmother was Ellen STANYER (née WALDRON)
but, despite the fact that I can't yet find a marriage on FreeBMD, she was supposed to be married to an IFOULD. She was born in London Mar.quarter 1839 Westminster 1/344.
In Mar.qt.1874 she married Thomas STANYER at Bethnal Green 1c/438. They moved to New Zealand in 1875.
Be pleased to get together on this if you think there is a connection.
Joan