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My father passed away

My father passed away

Posted: 3 Mar 2008 7:40PM GMT
Classification: Query
Surnames: Gribenks, Frisch, Caine
Arthur John Gribensk Passed away suddenly n 1/26/08. He always wanted more info on his father and never got it. Anyone who knew Jack Gribensk please contact. We were supposed to get some things from his sister Charlotte Frisch but she died and her husband never gave anything to us. We have family in Charlottsville VA.

Re: My father passed away

Posted: 23 May 2009 1:53AM GMT
Classification: Query
Hi linda,

I'm sorry to see your father has passed. I don't know if you remember me. My name is Melisa. I'm Rebecca's sister. I periodically look up her family to see if we find Vivian. And i saw your post. I'm sorry that you and Becky weren't able to develop a relationship for whatever reason. We did find Vivian, thankfully. And it took alot talking to get Becky to call her. She was so afraid of being rejected again. Anyway, if you would like to contact Becky again, she said that would be fine, her email is bekka1015@yahoo.com. I imagine she would like to understand what happened and why you severed contact. Again, my condolences.

Re: My father passed away

Posted: 23 May 2009 1:22PM GMT
Classification: Query
I stopped because I was asked to lie to the goverment which is against my principals. I am mariied to a family of lawyers and that is what I said to your sister. I am glad you found Vivian since I have not spoken to her in about 30 years. I can not keep in contact with someone I have no proof of is family. I do not want to hurt anyone. So when you have proof please write again. Way back then my father even offered his DNA. I will be glad to also. Since you are in contact with Vivian tell her to contact her only family on her fathers side and we can talk. I believe your sister was looking for her for DNA. To ask someone to lie to get SSI or anything else when in truth I had no idea if anyhting was true and was still willing to go to meet this very pretty little girl was asking too much. Let me know what Vivian says. So now you know why I stepped away. I happened to return to NC. The North is a horrible place to live.

Thank You,

Hope I answered your question as to why. Actually I didn't just stop I told your sister exactly what I have said in this email. You can contact me anytime.

Re: My father passed away

Posted: 23 May 2009 4:01PM GMT
Classification: Query
Linda,
My sister has no idea what happened, as i just posted in another section of this site. I think you spoke to my mother, not Beckey. I can't imagine you would have said all that to a 10 year old. That would have been harsh and inappropriate if you did. We did find Vivian and Becky spoke to her last night. Vivian posted on this site and someone named Carol asked her to email her as she isn't sure that Becky is Ted's. My mother is fine with a DNA test. No one asked you to lie to the government. You seem to accept Becky as your family. You gave her pictures. We have pictures of you two together. You have the exact same mouth. If you didn't believe she was Ted's I don't think you would have told me all that you did at lunch. I just don't understand what the issue is here. And Becky doesn't either. She doesn't care about Social security. That is a non issue at this point in time in her life. She just wants to know her family. It's every person's right. I'm sure you can understand that. You have been looking for Vivian for years. Imagine how Becky feels.
Posted: 24 May 2009 3:30PM GMT
Classification: Query
Let's me start by saying no sarcasism. That will not get you anywhere. I spoke in error because I thought you were Becky's mother's sister. So that's the first thing.
You say you don't undertstand what the problem is but for starters my cousin died in a sleezy motel of and overdose. Your mom was also involved in drugs. She may be clean now I have no idea. I and I alone tried to be kind and responsive to your email contact back then.
Please do not tell me I wasn't asked to lie. As soon as I got that request from your mother whom I had never seen untill I get a SSI request. I pulled away. I left NY/NJ becasue of the class of people and drugs and alcohol. I have friends who went with Teddy to try and get clean but he didn't. Let someone surprise you who you knew where involved in drugs and say" this is your relative" "I know he wasn't supposed to be able to have kids but he did". Meet them one time then get a request for SSI in the mail. If you don't think that would sound strange then I'm sorry for that. I got an email from Vivian and I even told her I thought Becky may look like her younger but that I had no proof it would be up to her as the Aunt to pursure this. Listen if Becky is a Gribensk I would welcome her to NC in a snap. There are many questions anyone would have in this situation. I will email Becky and I will remind you I am a responsible Mother and grandmother so I wouldn't hurt a fly! Becky of course wouldn't know why I stopped, did you want me to tell a child why I had my feelings? Becky is older now. Maybe she would understand how I felt. I applaude you for trying to find your sisters family. Your mother should have done this years ago. When will Becky be 18? Nevermind I will write her.
You say imagine how Becky feels looking for her family? Vivian is my family that I know. Becky is a young girl thrown in this mess by your mother and Ted. Please don't make us all the fall guys. Now that we are in contact with Vivian we can get this mess straighten out so Becky can find her family.

Re: My father passed away

Posted: 24 Feb 2014 12:30AM GMT
Classification: Query
I believe Jack Gribensk was an uncle to Charlotte (Gribensk) Frisch, not her brother.

Can anyone confirm this?

I am trying to trace the Gribensk name back beyond Ida and Harry Gribensk, any ideas?

Thanks,

John
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