dear loretta,
when you met my children, debbie was about 8 or 9 yrs old. alot has happen in our family. it has been hard for me to come back and visit, believe me i've tried. you don't know how my mother was. she told me not to ever go back up there or she would tell everyone that i was a liar. she didn't want anyone knowing what she and my father had done. i am living in fargo,n.d. and i have been trying find out where i fit in. it's for my kids because i wanted them and they know who they are and who loves them. i never felt wanted by parents and my mom i grew up with didn't really want me either. she had told me all my life that i was adopted. but after she passed on i couldn't find the adoption papers. she never wanted to adopt me. i am now a grand mother of 7 grandchildren and 2 in heaven. one thing i did and am doing is researching my roots and in this way i am finding myself. it took me a long time to stop blaming myself for what my parents did. i have learned that i was a child and had no control over what my parents did. but i did learn that they were wrong for treating me the way they did. the one other problem i have is i have been looking for my siblings and i can't find them. i did find james and he is here in fargo. it would be nice to hear from you. your niece,cathy(virginia)