Hi, Mary. My grandmother was born in Tricarico, father was a Grasso and her mother Antonia CETANO. She swore it was with an "o" at the end, but it seems Tricarico was pretty much home base for the CETANI's (with an "i"), so I guess it was a variant, misspelling, someone was arguing, whatever.
We definitely have a link here - lots of commonalities. Antonia was born around 1884, died 1918. Her father was Domenico. I have her death cert., but there is a hole obscuring the mother's name (Maria is part of the name). She had several sisters, Rose, Mary, Filomena - they all stayed in Italy, I think.
As for Di Napoli, Grandma always said Antonia's uncle paid for the husband's trip to America, and that uncle turns out to be "Vincenzo Di Napoli", who was in Indianapolis in 1910.
Grandma also mentioned her mother had a brother who came here and died while working on the construction of the NYC IRT (trains). Not sure if this is him, but Pancrazio Cetani, age 21, came over in 1911 to live with his brother-in-law, Luigi Grasso.
Any of this sound familiar??
Brian