Your Grandfather, Milton Bender, was my Uncle. My Father was Raymond Bender. I would be glad to share info with you. As a child I visited your Grandparents in Colorado Springs, CO.
I have photos of a Bender reunion held in Edmond Oklahoma in 1957 with all of the Bender clan- brothers Jesse David, Raymond, Bryan & Milton and sisters Flora, Lillie and Alice
I would be glad to share dates & photos with you,