I have the answers to some of the rumors. My name is Natasha Bender, the family knows me as Nikki. I am the daughter of Gary Bender AKA Grace and Ivans only son. My dad had the Teeter name when he was very little but as he grew up all his brothers had the Bender name and he wanted the same name as his brothers did. Les Bender was not Ivan's son, just my dad. I remember alot about Grace and Ivan. Ivan was mean, he use to call me the little brat but I also remember he had the cutiest hanging bottom lip with 1 tooth :) I still giggle about that and little strands of white hair on the top of his head, I remember my Grammys soft arms, I remember exploring all over the house just finding stuff that Ivan hid somewhere. So yes Ivan was miserable but he was my dads dad and I remember seeing my dad cry for the 1st time when he heard Ivan passed. I remember my Grammy Grace crying when she had to bury her husband.