Do not believe your Thomas Carr is brother to Paddy Carr, based upon historical records. However, the Asbury School you mention was sponsored by the South Carolina Conference of the Methodist Church. They may have some records regarding the school, which was located near Ft. Mitchell and was established very early. Both Paddy and Thomas attended there, but this would have been somewhere around 1815 onward, not 1847. Paddy had 3 wives by this time and had escorted 2 to Oklahoma by then.