I am a distant cousin of yours through this family, and I have also been trying to find them. I think we could help each other.
Your mother's mother's mother's father's mother was Elizabeth (Hettinger) Yarger. Elizabeth's younger brother, Philip Hettinger, was my gr-gr-gr-gr grandfather. That makes you a "5th cousin" to my father. I've been trying to research all the descendants of the Hettinger family in America, for the past couple decades. Hope we can talk! y email address is below.
Grand Haven, MIwesslingbaker@gmail.com