Oh wow!! Thank you so much!!!!
I found the Oneals in the 1880 census, but couldn't decide if I should put them together at all. I'm not really great at putting "unknown" pieces together.. but I love the way you've laid it out here. It makes a lot of sense when you say it. As soon as I get rid of this migraine, I'll go back over everything you've said and see if I can put it all together.
Thank you again for your help.