Jenny, and Michael, The Butler-Maddens you are referring to are scattered from Scotland, Wales, England down to Australia.
You would like to get in touch with Ann Butler-Madden and her mother Jean Butler-Madden in Scotland, or Ann's first cousin, Guy Butler-Madden in Wales, or Tricia Gosling whose mother is Hetty Uren, in Australia. Please email Jean B-M at email@example.com
and she will link you with the others. My connection is only as extended family. My grandmother was the sister to Beatrice Karl who married Gerald Butler-Madden. I quote Michael "Gerald is the brother of Louis, Charles ,Emma,Frederick and Frances."
If my calculations are correct you would be third cousins to Guy, Ann, Patricia (Hetty Uren's daughter).
There is a 80th birthday coming up in November with one of your aunties. Get online with them and you will meet all of them.
Gerald Butler-Madden and his wife (my grand-aunt) Beatrice Karl had several children but their only two survived children are Marjorie in Bristol, UK, and Hetty in Perth (Aust.) Other known relatives can be reached through Jean.